Low sexual desire is a typical complaint among women. In fact, it’s so common that when women get together as friends and talk about the issue socially, the most common response to someone is for the whole group to say: “Of course.” “Me too,” or, “That’s what all my friends say.”

In other words, all the women in the group will normalize — and support — the idea that it’s fine that many women don’t have much desire for sex.

But your girlfriends might not ask you the more targeted questions that a healthcare professional or a sex therapist might ask you, such as:

1. Does this lack of sexual desire bother you?

2. Is this lack of interest in sex something that has been lifelong for you, or has it come on recently?

If your lack of interest in sex bothers you, and especially if it has occurred recently, don’t just listen to your friends and accept it. It’s worth getting some professional help to assess the cause of your low desire.

If you are having a sudden, negative change in your sexual interest or functioning, be on the lookout for medication changes as the culprit. Medications for high cholesterol and high blood pressure are often to blame for lower desire. So can psychotropic drugs.

There are women who enjoy sex a lot. It’s part of their identity. And if something changes in their sexual responsiveness, they are upset.

If this describes you, don’t just accept the changes in your sexuality. Mobilize yourself to get help exploring those changes.