For many of today’s families, dealing with “tech tantrums” has become the new normal. A tech tantrum occurs when a child emotionally combusts or throws a fit when asked to turn off their iPad or other electronic device. Unlike conventional tantrums, tech tantrums are not only thrown by toddlers, adolescents have a tough time unplugging too.   

According to Study Finds, kids experience many transitions daily, such as stopping play to get dressed, or brushing their teeth after meals, that involve self-regulation skills. Transitioning from screen to non-screen activities may be harder for them because the technology is highly engaging, and developers design digital activities to keep children connected.

However, new research from the Australian project, Young Children in Digital Society, found three timely tips on how to keep the peace and make these technology transitions smoother.

1. Prepare your kids. As adults, we would be upset if someone suddenly turned off the program or movie we are watching. Kids, too, can feel annoyed and frustrated when their device is suddenly spirited away. So prepare them, and let them know when screen time will end. For example, tell them that when the game or movie they are watching is finished, screen time is up. Let them know what their next activity is ─ going to the park or having dinner ─ so the transition is smoother.

2. Do something in real life inspired by the screen. Parents in the Australian study found it helpful to move from technologies to non-digital technologies by taking their cues from their kids’ favorite shows. If they love shows like Paw Patrol, a visit to the local pet shelter or zoo may be in order. If the program has a catchy theme song, parents can use the music to lure the kids away from the screen to a more physical activity like dancing. 

3. Give kids a choice. While fastening a seat belt or getting ready for school are mandatory things in a child’s life, giving them a choice in technology is helpful, says Study Finds. For example, you can ask, “would you like to watch two or four episodes of this show?’ or “would you like to start the timer for your game, or do you want me to let you know when your time is up?” These strategies help children feel like they have some control about how long they use technology.